6/2/2023 0 Comments Natalie solisSolis talks about struggles to talk with her friends and family and started isolating herself and saying that she started to self-sabotage everything. He would just ignore my emotions and feelings.” “I push people away now and I don’t like to communicate ’cause when I would always communicate with him, he would never listen to me. I’m more in my head,” said the psychology student, “I overthink about every situation.” “I feel like now I’m very insecure about my work ethics now. “I feel like now, just 5 months after, I look at every sign in a toxic way,” she said, “One thing that just bothers me, I kinda just ignore it now.” Solis talked about the negative effects that she went through after her toxic relationship with her ex. Solis said that when they broke up she hated him, but as time went on she learned to forgive him and is now working on forgiving herself for gaslighting her own self. So I feel like after he was crying about how much he missed his ex, I knew he was changing.” “In the beginning, I ignored the red flags because I already fell in love with him before he fell in love with me. Solis noticed the changes in her ex when he started being abusive. Solis said, “So our relationship was the gym.” Solis and her ex would go to the gym after work and both of them had a 5 month friendship before they started dating. “I was gaining weight after high school and he was already a personal trainer and we would have the same shifts,” said the Cerritos College student, “So our relationship was the gym.” Solis met her toxic ex during the pandemic while at work. At that time, I was apologizing for him doing that to me, so he can not get angry and get even more mad,” Solis said. He just blamed his anger on it than himself. “It was just a lot of gaslighting and manipulation with him,” Solis said, “Every time he would do something that I did not like, he would manipulate me by reversing the situation on me for something I did in the past.” Natalie Solis, Cerritos College Kinesiology major student and Cal State Long Beach Psychology major student, shared her experience as a victim of a toxic relationship and explained her growth from it. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness month, victims can use this time to share and inspire their stories with others, to heal and open up to someone about their traumatic experience.
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